Lessons from a seagull

One of my all time favourite books is Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach.  Bach achieved the impossible.  He gave humans wings.

The book changed my perspective and, importantly, helped me understand the trajectory of my life.  I return to the book repeatedly, every time finding deeper meaning than before.  Oh! the power of words!

“Don’t believe what your eyes are telling you.  All they show is limitation.  Look with your understanding.  Find out what you already know and you will see the way to fly.”

Yes, Bach gave me wings.

I know where there is water, there are seagulls.  So I seek them.  Some may regard seagulls as pests.  Vermin, even.  Not me!

I started photographing seagulls some years ago and realised they were a perfect subject for mindfulness.  I saw them for what they were in the moment.

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Seagulls have taught me to sit with the thought.  Sit with the emotion.  Try and understand.  The operative word is, understand.

Understanding has many layers and one does not have to dig deep to strike the mother lode of facts.  When you do, beyond what the eye sees are incidental gains, important ones, of compassion, humility, wisdom.  But one has to first learn how to dig, trawl, and then sift.  (Any postgraduate student will attest to this).

I’ve learned when travelling along ‘information highways’, and when seated in coffee shops too, ‘clicking’, ‘chatting’, snippets of benign conversation may give information.  It is easy for people to ‘analyze’ it, consider it out of context and then spout their unsolicited ‘expertise’ as fact, worse still, knowledge.  It is like someone calling themselves an artist, after completing a connect-the-dots exercise.

There is nothing more frustrating than talking to someone who knows it all.  If you have raised teens, this will resonate with you!  But despite the angst (of parent and child), it is a critical time of social development.  It can be navigated carefully.  My father did this successfully.

I recall my father saying, “Be careful of people who know it all.  They have a closed mind.”  To some this may seem a paradox.  It did to me.  It also made me stop and think.

My father knew me well.  Always a learner, a closed mind to me was death.

So I continue learning, a willing student, available and accessible, receptive to all  teachers.  Seagulls, too.

This.  Is.  Living.

Now I must fly.

Until next time,

As always,

a dawn bird

 

 

 

Cat, with attitude

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This is Killian.

Aptly named, one of the meanings of the name is fierce.  No pouting mouth.  No sideways glance.  He knows there is no such thing as his better side.  Nor is there, a better angle.  He stares a camera down.

With apologies to cat lovers, I’m not one of them.  Killian does not belong to me.  Nor does he belong to my son and his fiancee.  They belong to him.

My son’s fiancee loves animals.  Soon my son discovered he loves their two cats.

Then Killian joined them as a house guest while his owner was away for a few days.  When he returned, Killian decided he had found a new home.

That was two years ago.

Until next time

As always

a dawn bird

 

 

Beloved, it’s in our nature

via Photo Challenge: Beloved

In a flock, they know the other.

DSCN4010.jpgAs well as a mother knows her chick.

DSCN4043.jpgBirds often pair for life, each the beloved of the other.

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DSCN8124.jpgOthers huddle close together to appear as one … to large predatory raptors.

DSCN7354Have you seen dragonflies mate?  In a word, violently.  Finding a beloved, they end the battle, in heart-shaped unity.

DSCN6688.jpgOn weekends, kayaks rest side by side signalling, the beloveds are nearby.

DSCN8219Yes, to be loved and beloved, is in our nature.

Until next time

As always

a dawn bird

 

 

Introspection

via Daily Prompt: Cavity

Known locally as the Super Pit, I fly over Australia’s largest open cut gold mine on a regular basis.  The maw takes one’s breath away.  It is nearly 600 metres deep, 1.5 km wide and 3.5 km long.  It neighbours the twin towns of Kalgoorlie-Boulder, in Western Australia.DSCN7349.jpg

I’ve also stood at the viewing gallery and peered in.  Fascinating!  Like watching an ant farm.  The history, just as fascinating, and goes back to the late 1800s and to the time of the Gold Rush in these parts.

They’ve come a long way from shovels and carts.

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The precision of the cut, sliced through hard earth, leaves layers for the eye to see but is it depth?

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I reflect.

I know there’s gold in there.

Why else would people dig deep to create this cavity?

Perhaps to excavate, excise, remove, claim, maybe even dare I say, reclaim?

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So I look closer … even closer … at the minute particles of dust and debris that make the (w)hole.

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And like that solitary miner …

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return home to a happier place, without the memory of you and me.

Until next time

As always

a dawn bird

 

The healing

One of my favourite quotes by Harville Hendrix is framed and visible on my work desk, for all those who walk in to see.  “We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.”

I was introduced to this type of thinking over twenty years ago.  Times have changed.  People have changed.  Perceptions have changed.  I have changed.  This was brought home to me recently.

I was visiting someone who has dogs.  For hours the rescue dog was outdoors and I watched him intermittently.  Then, someone opened the door.  He came in and went straight to my feet and settled himself.  Ordinarily, I would be wary.  I have been bitten by dogs on two occasions.  Even though these events happened in the distant past, the anxiety around dogs remained.  At a delicious lunch at a seaside cafe, my colleague mentioned casually.  She observed I was no longer nervous around dogs.  Usually, she is protective of me, but did not have to step in to redirect this time.  I reflected on her observation.

A few years ago my daughter bought M.  It took months before I could stay alone at home with M.  As the days became weeks, her bond with me strengthened each day.  She would give me a baleful, disapproving look each time she watched me pack my suitcase.  She knew I didn’t like her jumping on me.  Desperate to eat her dinner, she would whimper but sit outside the glass door until I allowed her in.  She learned and obeyed my hand command for ‘stop’ almost like it was instinct in her.  While working at home, the silences between the frenetic keystrokes would prompt her to tap, tap, tap her tail, to let me know she was still there.  All communicated without a word, trust grew between us.

My daughter and her partner bought another dog, a companion, they thought for M.  A purebred puppy.  I was disapproving and wary.  No, I tell a lie.  I was scared.  The words, “dominant”, “needs firm training”, “protective of family” did nothing to ease the anxiety.  My daughter wanted him for protection, her partner being FIFO (fly in fly out worker).  I knew he wasn’t the right breed for the family, especially as he was an aloof puppy when only a few weeks old.  I was proved right.  A few months later, his aggression nearly killed M.  There was nothing the young adults could do, but return the puppy to the breeder.  Then, they bought another puppy.

We all fell in love instantly.  She smiles!  All day!  At anything!  And, anyone!  For her, everything is love at first sight.  She shares the love with thousands.  Her social media presence and following, is strong!

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M was wary of Em from the very start.  Walked away from her on approach.  M’s memory of being attacked still fresh.  She watched from a distance as Em became beloved and in turn, loved others.  Em did not give up.  She loved M and was never far from her.  Soon M started to respond to Em when she brought toys to her, barking insistently for play time.  M would sigh, a big old sigh of exasperation, climb off the sofa, and indulge Em for a while.

Em is now 11 months old and 45 kg.  M and Em are inseparable.

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Harville got it right.

Until next time

As always,

a dawn bird